Published Date: 28 Sep 17
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.
If you resist, you face sorrow; if you accept you fall in love… eventually.
In today’s fast pacing world where everything around us is changing its colour and texture, how can parenting challenges be far behind? Gone are the days when the elders of the family used to instil positive and religious values, the fathers used to be the epitome of duty and responsibility, the mothers used to show immense love and the teachers used to be the flag bearers of knowledge and discipline. The responsibility of rearing a child was not on a single shoulder but on the entire society or neighbourhood. The children were being raised in a loving, caring and safe atmosphere of near and dear ones. But now the scene has entirely changed. Our joint families have broken into nuclear families, our society has become self-centred, and the neighbourhood has become unknown. Our children are growing up in a world which is utterly different from the world we used to know.
Today’s parents are encircling around work, family, social life, activities and so many other trivial issues, thereby ignoring the kids and their growing demands. But these insecurities are not supposed to hold us down, rather should act as a catalyst to break through the oddities of life. For parents challenges are many but instead of trying to change our children we should try to change our ways to deal with the kids and their problems. Broadly we can discuss about five aspects in our children’s life that should be taken care of.
Here are the top 5 parenting challenges today's parents are facing:
Children are like clay moulds, very soft and sensitive. In a heterogeneous world the only people they can rely upon are their parents. They by nature are inquisitive, full of questions, notions, beliefs, and their own interpretation of life. Parents should be the filters through which they can construct a positive world view. So spending sufficient time with them will help them not only boost their confidence and knowledge but also will help them to cope up with the outer world with better emotional intelligence.
Sometimes it is seen that parents get irritated by the children’s growing demands. Sometimes they ask for latest gadgets, sometimes for costly holiday package or for the most advertised product for them. Sometimes they even ask for going out with their friends and as obvious we as parents become sceptical about the same. Why? Because underneath we want to control them, we want them to be responsible, we want them to stay safe, and we want them to understand value of time and money. But out of irritation some parents immediately react by throwing a big NO at their demanding looks, which eventually leads to hatred in their heart towards their parents. Instead we can talk to them, can give them real life examples while explaining.
We can show them our concern and anxiety towards their safety, which will help them to grasp the situation in a better way. We have to show our unconditional love to them so that they can cherish these emotional bonding afterwards in their life. To be in their memories tomorrow we have to get ourselves involved in their life today.
Discipline is a short word but it includes not only punctuality but also it encompasses all the virtues needed for a better and respectable life. Children these days are going hayward because of the loopholes in vigilant parenting and degrading sociable behaviour of the mass. Doing things out of the way has become a fashion which in the long run affects our children negatively. Solutions to handle these problems are many but the best among them is counselling. Talk to them, interact, discuss and make them feel and know the positive outcome of a disciplined life. Parenting is just like flying a kite. Set the string tight when required and let it loose when your kids need freedom e.g. eating out junk food once in a while with the kids can definitely bring a positive vibe to the relationships. Kids are always kids. The natural urge to think out of the box is very unique to them so we have to provide them the freedom for their personal innovations and explorations; we should never forget that we have descended from monkeys much before than the monks!
Our children these days are suffering from many types of stress; be it the peer pressure, the exam pressure, competitiveness or the inferiority complex… so on and so many. Our duty as a parent is to make them strong, bold and decisive. We have to inculcate in them patience, perseverance and resilience attitude. They have to realise that with an Optimistic outlook in life they can create wonders and can achieve the impossible.
There is no such thing called perfect human being or perfect behaviour. But if we want to make our kids better human beings or behave well then we have to be their role model. Children are never good at listening to the elders but they never fail to imitate them. Apart from our social life we have been very much addicted to media these days. So when it is about ‘no disturbance from children’ parents greatly rely on free babysitting by different media like T.V, music, mobile, laptops and so on. Let us put an end to this. In order to build a better society for ourselves, let us work together to create a better human resource in the form of our kids in the future. Though we can’t recreate the past but we can definitely build an alert, educated, disciplined and responsible cohort of citizens representing a brighter tomorrow. This is at least in our hand till now!!!
KALPANA PRIYADARSHINEE BHANJA